Need Prayer
Hi everyone
First of all I like the new page on holypal, hopefully no more scammers.
2nd I need prayer. I lost my job 2 mos ago and have not been able to land a job yet. What money i have is very little like $68 to be exact, $45 of it goes to pay my cell phone. I cant get rid of the phone cause that is the only way people can get ahold of me. I moved from las vegas back home cause after my divorce i could not afford to pay the rent and so i was evicted. I lost everything i had clothes etc. I know material things are not important. When i moved home my mom begged me to help her out with her financial problems So she asked to borrow my final paycheck so she could pay the rent cause she bounced the check. She said she would pay me back when money was better , I was getting SDI as well cause I have MS so my little check of $992 a month was being taken by my parents cause they were so far behind on bills etc. When my SDI stopped My parents flipped.
One day when i came home from work i found out my mom was arrested cause of a warrant... My dad confirmed it , my mom had embezzled $361k from her HOA's . My dad said that if i wanted to use my moms car i had to pay her back car payments PLUS her registration . There was no way i was going to pay $2500 for a car that did not belong to me PLUS pay a monthly car payment.
So when i did go to work my dad made me drive with him, meaning i had to get up at 530am every day and go to work 4 hrs early and wait . He controlled me on a daily basis, told me I had to put gas in HIS car everytime, buy his smokes and take him to dinner. I wanted to try to buy some clothes etc and he said i have more important things to spend my money on..
In april i was put in the hosp with caridac problems, dad told the nurses what i should eat and then asked me for gas $$$ and then when he brought me home asked me again for more money and when i said I just filled the car up he said DONT start with me either you do what i say or you will find yourself walking.
DAD told me to borrow $$$ to pay his power bills and never has repaid me to repay my friend who i borrowed money from.
MY dad spends his paychecks on my mom in prison now. He sends her $400 a month so she can have things when she has a job and gets paid.
Its winter time and he wont turn the heater on, i have a small space heater that barely warms my room , I am too the point where I am going crazy..
I was offered a job and he said NO, it has to be his rules on hrs and days. I am almost 40 and he treats me like a child... My parents call themselves " christians" but i dont think they are... A parent would not torture their child like this..
Please pray for me, I need to get a job soon so i can make some money and leave. He rubbed his xmas gifts in my face and i did not get a thing,
First of all I like the new page on holypal, hopefully no more scammers.
2nd I need prayer. I lost my job 2 mos ago and have not been able to land a job yet. What money i have is very little like $68 to be exact, $45 of it goes to pay my cell phone. I cant get rid of the phone cause that is the only way people can get ahold of me. I moved from las vegas back home cause after my divorce i could not afford to pay the rent and so i was evicted. I lost everything i had clothes etc. I know material things are not important. When i moved home my mom begged me to help her out with her financial problems So she asked to borrow my final paycheck so she could pay the rent cause she bounced the check. She said she would pay me back when money was better , I was getting SDI as well cause I have MS so my little check of $992 a month was being taken by my parents cause they were so far behind on bills etc. When my SDI stopped My parents flipped.
One day when i came home from work i found out my mom was arrested cause of a warrant... My dad confirmed it , my mom had embezzled $361k from her HOA's . My dad said that if i wanted to use my moms car i had to pay her back car payments PLUS her registration . There was no way i was going to pay $2500 for a car that did not belong to me PLUS pay a monthly car payment.
So when i did go to work my dad made me drive with him, meaning i had to get up at 530am every day and go to work 4 hrs early and wait . He controlled me on a daily basis, told me I had to put gas in HIS car everytime, buy his smokes and take him to dinner. I wanted to try to buy some clothes etc and he said i have more important things to spend my money on..
In april i was put in the hosp with caridac problems, dad told the nurses what i should eat and then asked me for gas $$$ and then when he brought me home asked me again for more money and when i said I just filled the car up he said DONT start with me either you do what i say or you will find yourself walking.
DAD told me to borrow $$$ to pay his power bills and never has repaid me to repay my friend who i borrowed money from.
MY dad spends his paychecks on my mom in prison now. He sends her $400 a month so she can have things when she has a job and gets paid.
Its winter time and he wont turn the heater on, i have a small space heater that barely warms my room , I am too the point where I am going crazy..
I was offered a job and he said NO, it has to be his rules on hrs and days. I am almost 40 and he treats me like a child... My parents call themselves " christians" but i dont think they are... A parent would not torture their child like this..
Please pray for me, I need to get a job soon so i can make some money and leave. He rubbed his xmas gifts in my face and i did not get a thing,
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Permalink Reply by Art Fontaine on -
OMG! I really don't know what to say but that is awful. My dad is a horrible person too but because he is a heroin addict. He filed a false report about paying my mold business $7k so I had to verify it or he would get in trouble. At the time I made a mistake and lied for him and he got his $250 and never gave me the $35. I asked for. I learned a hard lesson a while back and I decided it was better to be homeless and happy then to have a home and always want to die. You need to tell him no. You tell him that mom is in jail for being a thief and that it isn't your responsibility to cover her sinning, his either. They are pathetic excuses for people and I spent 5 yrs in jail, she can't spend more than $30-50/week at canteen anyway. Find a shelter and move out, it will be better than that. As hard as it sounds I would sue your dad, he is an awful father (like mine-cept maybe a lil worse.) As much as it hurts to hear you need to know that he is a piece of crap so don't feel bad about telling him no. You don't live out in the woods do you?
God will make a way for you but you have to stand up to your dad. I feel that he resents you for some reason, maybe your illness, anyway that is his excuse to make you pay more than your way. God will provide for you but that old addage that God helps those who helps themselves, it may not be outright said in the Word but it is still the truth. God can make a way. You should do some type of network marketing because it is something that you can show locally etc. You need to flip out on your dad so he knows you are serious. Get a ride to the courthouse and file suit against your dad. (obviously find somewhere else to stay first. Also, why did your ssdi get cut? If you have ms it should be indefinite? Did you not keep up with the paperwork?
I don't really have any good sounding advice to tell you. You will never have anything any different until you change something. I wish you were close to me I would pay for you to join prepaid legal and then you could get paid direct deposit when ever you make a sale...but you would be burdened by the $25/month membership fee. Course you could use a high price lawyer at no additional charge either.....
Ok, well now that I have written all this, which is basically me thinking out loud. You have to move out! Stay with friends or find a shelter. A shelter gets you out early but not 4 hrs before work and there is heat. What city/state are you in? I will track down some local resources for you? You can PM me the info. I will say right now that I will never send money to anyone because of scammers but I can help in other ways. Like with my dad, if he asks for money for a bill I know it will be spent on drugs so I say sure but take the money to the electric company myself. Some people just suck, my family, your family, others suffer too at the hands of loved ones. Remember that the only family that matters is your heavenly one. People are just awful sometimes. When I read this it made me sick...had to take a minute cuz I was willing to take a long ride and do something very unchristian to your father....but he deserves worse than I could ever give him. Tell him his is a pathetic excuse for a believer and see what he says. Sometimes it is stuff like that, that gets one to really think.
PM me your address if you trust me enough and I will see what I can do to help. As long as you aren't out in the boonies there are programs. I have gone as far as to go to another city because I heard of a better shelter and programs that help. Like here, if you go to "our Fathers House" in Fitchburg, if they don't have beds they give vouchers to Leominster Motor inn. There are programs like that everywhere. YOU CAN DO IT, YOU WILL MAKE IT!, YOU WILL STOP LETTING PEOPLE WALK ON YOU! YOU CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHO GIVES YOU STRENGTH!
I have been homeless a few times and was a heroin addict/ crackhead and got off by the grace of God and sheer determination to have more. Now I make great money and have a decent life. I suffer a lot of emotional pain but it is all stuff I was suffering anyway so why not suffer with lots of money, right? My point is that you are a woman of God( I hope you accepted Christ, I am assuming so) You need to just keep your eye on the prize but you need to know that if you don't make a change, nothing else will either. Don't give your dad a dime! Tell him that he owes you and if he threatens to kick you out tell him you will press charges on him for larceny. Taking money and not paying it back is stealing and it is a crime and stealing from the handicapped will get him some quiet time somewhere other than mom. You can also point out that he wont have anyone bringing him money.
You seriously may have to find a shelter in another city or something , try to find a friend to stay with. You can pick your friends but you can't pick your family. Your parents are trash so get over it. It is not your job to fix them or even help them. They showed they don't give a toot about you so you no longer have any reason to let them take advantage of you. Tell em how it is.
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Permalink Reply by michelle williams on
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I totally agree. I once stopped payment on a check he made me write to him so he could cover his bounced check and when he called the bank to find out how much money he had and found out i stopped payment he went ape on me. I told him It is NOT my responsibility to take care of his $1500 deposit cause their power got shut off cause they bounced a payment check. HE said you live in my house you do as I say. I was homeless after my parents would not help me pay my rent, I lost everything and they would not even try to save my stuff, so when i came to their house after i was locked out of my apartment They tossed me out 24 hrs later and gave me $200 and said go live in a hotel,
When you move from state to state you have to go thru the paperwork again to get disability and i was not going to allow my parents to take it again..
I was offered a job sat but i had to go into palm springs but my dad would not take me I was lucky enough to call the owner and reschedule for next weekend. My mom thinks she has to have the very best shampoo etc and snacks and being in prison we can send her a box every 3 mos. And she has to have her pepsi every morning, which i think is stupid. Heck .08 a hr is not bad for her crime but she thinks that she needs more. My sister was involved with the crime but no one knows how to catch up with her my dad is also on the lic of the business there are lawsuits left and right but all he does is write RTS to them and send them back... My mom has lied many times about me saying i have stolen her identity and SSN and that is why her credit score is low.. So everytime my dad wants info on my mom he has to call my baby sister and he talks quiet cause he does not want me to hear the conversation...
My dad told the assoc pastor that it was the work of the devil and that is why my mom is in prison. NO its called my mom just is a money hungry biatch who wanted nice things for her and my sister so she buys new cars, takes the family on lavish trips gambles etc and leaves money for my sister to buy a brand new house.
I live in a small town called yucca valley outside of palm springs.
I have thought about suicide cause of what my parents do to me. But i keep my faith high and my eyes on god. I was a born again christian at the age of 12.
god bless
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Permalink Reply by Art Fontaine on
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Well it is time to open a new bank account and reapply for disability so you can get out. Then move as far away as you can and file charges against them. Family or not I want to see these people both pay and suffer for the way they have treated you, provided you are telling the whole story. She is in jail for being a scumbag, she deserves to suffer. You could always call the jail and tell them that she has been using her husband to extort money out of you to get canteen and the jail will throw her in the hole for a month or two which means no pepsi or even a pencil...sounds like she deserves that at least. I would grab any incriminating documents that could get your dad sent to jail and get him locked up too. Then while they are gone you get and order to sell the house or drop the lease whatever and have everything they own thrown away. Then you sue them, oh you could do this now. Once you get out of there you sue your mom while she is still in jail, the fine will add time to her sentence and you can sue your dad as well disabling his ability to help her. Or the best yet, put drugs in the package he sends and he will go to jail and she will go to the hole....now that probably is not the most Christian sounding thing to do but I am brainstorming on paper. I would find a way to get your dad hemmed up permanently. Then your mom will get hers.
You mom is lucky to be in that type of jail, where I was you don't get anything sent in, you buy the garbage knock off products they sell or go with out. You would be better off going to a shelter for a couple weeks and getting all your sdi taken care of, then you will be able to get assistance finding a place. There is public transportation there right, (buses, trains, etc)? You have to get out of there. It stinks that it is a holiday cuz nothing is open but I will talk to a few people that I know about your options. If you let the jail know you have MS and her and your dad have been extorting money from you they will probably stop her packages from coming in and will get lugged again.
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Permalink Reply by Virgil on -
LEAVE...There are women organizations that help... You are a victim of domestic violence in a sense from your relations with father. i am a father of 2 girls ... NEVER would i put them through what you explained.
You are 40, and you need to live your life even without a JOB... Don't confuse reasons verse excuses.
Have your Church , if have one pray for you... I am sure someone will help you if you are sincere..
God Bless You!
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Permalink Reply by Marie Smith on -
I will certainly pray for you, Michelle. I will also pray for your parents, that God will show them what they are doing and how it is affecting you. Meanwhile, however, I agree with the others that you need to leave the situation. I don't know what other advice to give you. I hope that in the time that has passed since you made your initial post things have gotten better for you.
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