Alone...

it sux when you have no one to love, or be loved by... many come and many go in this world we live in. love is something i'll never understand... heartache and emptiness is all u feel... i learn to love then my heart is ripped in two. no one will ever love this mortal.man. i know i'm love by some... and christ loves me but i mean by that someone... why do all the nice guys like myself tend to finish last... but all the total jerks get the girls... and those girls always say they want a man to listen be honest love them for them but when i look nothing... well here i am... the one that can sweep you off your feet should you let me... should you give me that chance... to get to knoe you... you won't refret it. i;m a hopeless romantic and gonna be alone for my b-day and valentines day... well i see my poetic... side wants to come forth so i;m gonna go before i bore you all. take care and see if any replu to this... which i doubt... good night all...

Mark

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Permalink Reply by Ann on April 24, 2008 at 10:18am: Hi Mark!

Just some thoughts… …..hope you find something useful!

I used to say that it’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all……
And I do believe that being vulnerable is worth it…however, having lost my husband 2 yrs ago after 25 yrs of marriage, and being single again at age 59, I sometimes find myself afraid to love again for fear of another loss…….

God has shown me some things, since the death of my husband, especially with regard to relationships with men. I know that I was confused about love. I always fell into love for the wrong reasons. My brother and I have talked about this and I appreciate his male perspective, even though it shocks me at times!

Even my relationship with my husband began in the wrong way, but God did something wonderful and gave us the right kind of love together in the last years of our marriage. He allowed us to experience agape love! True friendship!

God has since shown me the kind of love I am to have for any man now has to be initially this kind of love, agape love, not the sensual kind, or I am not to have this relationship at all. I have been learning more about this agape love since the death of my husband. And yes, it has involved a man. I have a friendship of 2 yrs which I have appreciated because there has been no pressure at all from this man to have the other kind of relationship.

God has impressed upon me that I am to love this man with an agape love, not the other kind, and has given me a burden to pray for the well being of the soul of this man, which helps me to keep perspective, since it finally dawned on me that he is indeed an attractive man, a fact which had escaped me in the midst of my grief, when he came alongside of me and brought this gift of friendship to me.

The day that I suddenly realized I was not in fact a stick of wood (about a year ago) was the beginning of a struggle to maintain balance, and to handle and KEEP a friendship as offered……it’s of too much value to loose……. I’m still learning valuable lessons. God gave me a special gift in this man at this difficult time of my life and an opportunity to do something differently. I thank Him for it.

My suggestion to you is to be that kind of a man. A man who offers a girl agape love, which is a rare find in these days. Be a man of HONOUR. Be a man of INTEGRITY. You are busy looking for someone to fill the gaps. In the meantime, as someone here suggested earlier, fill those gaps with God, with His word. You won’t regret it.

As you walk this path, you will struggle, yes, with your desires for the other kind of love, but it will be worth it in the end, as you experience relationship without it. The other will come in God’s good time and your relationship will then be built on solid ground. I believe it’s a matter of prayer……

PRAY, PRAY, PRAY! And then pray some more…and trust in God’s plan for your life.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Dominic on September 23, 2008 at 6:34pm: I feel you man. I've been thinking the same thing myself lately. I just had a relationship end and now I think I'm more afraid of ending up alone than anything else. But I keep putting my trust in God daily that He will place somebody in my path. You'll make it through bro.

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